Letting go of a good thing

"Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together" – Marilyn Monroe

I have a friendship that is falling apart. Not just any friendship…it's my relationship with my best friend. The details aren't all that important, but over the last six months I have tried many different ways of saving what we had. Through talks and texts, prayer and tears, nothing has worked. The reality is that our lives are just not compatible anymore.

Instead of leaving the relationship with any more hurt feelings than I already have, I am letting her go.

Sometimes, the decision to let something go, be it a friendship, a dream, or a favorite piece of clothing can be so traumatic. We wear them so well, right? In my particular case, my friend was my forever friend. You know the one I'm talking about right? The one that you picture yourself with as an old woman, sipping coffee in retirement and telling each other about the husband's ear hairs?? This was my friend who I knew every little thing about (or so I thought) and who knew me. She was like my sister. And then, in the last six months, it just all went haywire. Nothing fit anymore. She started doing things that I didn't understand, and suddenly, it was clear that I didn't want to be part of her world. I couldn't be part of her world.

As much as I tried to understand her, the most important thing was that I understand myself. I have a husband and a child that I have to look out for. And I have my own soul that needs tending. So I'm letting her go to be the SHE that she wants to be, and I'm going to be the ME that I am without her.

So who is that exactly? Well, I'm not quite sure. Luckily, the universe knew that this day would come several years in advance because I am lucky enough to already have another terrific friend who I love dearly and who has patiently listened to me whine about the death of this friendship.

I'm also going to spend some time doing things that I have been wanting to do, but instead I have been pouring my energies into trying to save this friendship.

Maybe you have a situation in your life that needs to be evaluated – and maybe it's time to just let it go. Letting go can be scary, and exhausting. And it can also be very rewarding for your soul. Try it and you might be surprised.

Comments

[Jen Curasco]

You are so right. There are times in life where we just have to let go. Relationships that we never thought would sour at times do and we have to be strong enough and aware enough to just let them go! There is no point in allowing the "bad" in a relationship bring us down!